Posts Written OnApril 2016

Weathering the storms of divorce

have had my shares of challenges in my life but the most hurtful, painful and devastating experience I had was when my marriage fell apart and ended in divorce after 17 years of togetherness – not even the death of my mother was this painful. I went through so much emotional turmoil that I totally get why people try to drown their sorrows in a bottle.  I also came to fully realize the thin line that exist between sane and insanity. In the early stage I was in so much disbelief and shock.  I never imagined that this could happen…

GIVE GOD THE BROKEN PIECES

    There are no appropriate adjectives to describe how it feels to have a broken heart.  Only those who have experienced it truly understand the pain.  Hearts are broken as a result of many reasons such as the death of a loved one, betrayal, and the end of a relationship.  As far as I know there are no medicines or physical treatments that are available to heal a broken heart. No wonder the Lord makes it a priority to be close to the broken-hearted  because He knows He is the only one who can heal this type of wound . …

I have all right to be an angry single mother!

got divorced after 17 years of marriage. I am in my forties, raising two kids with minimal child support. My ex remarried to a younger woman four months after the divorce was finalized, has a new family, prospering financially and has moved on with his new life. While my life on the other hand revolves around the children: homework, dinner, doctor and dentist appointment and so forth. How did I get here? After all, I did the right thing; I got married to a nice Christian man before I had my children as the last thing I wanted was to…

YIELD TO THE PROCESS

Have you ever notice that when you are hurrying you seem to make a mess of things, no wonder it is said that “haste make waste?” It may sound like a cliche’ but anything worthwhile in life takes time. When we rush we tend to miss important details. Slow down, do not manipulate the situation, thing or person. In the right time if it is meant to be things will fall into place. Yield to the process. Uldean

If you were to lose it all would you continue to serve God?

  Almost anyone can worship God in the good times. Satan said to God, Job serves you because he is prosperous, healthy and has a good family. “Would Job worship you if he got nothing out of it?” (Job 1:9) The same challenge stands today, if you were to lose it all would you continue to serve God? None of us like difficulties, often times when we are faced with adversity many of us ask God why he would allow bad things to happen to His people. But if we worship God because everything in our lives is perfect then…

VENGEANCE BELONGS TO GOD

t feels unfair, you want to take matters into your own hands. Why does it feel he/she is getting away with the hurtful thing that was done. “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. (Rms 12:19) Remember God’s word will not return unto Him void but will accomplish that which it sets out to do. God works with time and season. Trust Him. Uldean

Know when to let go

ot’s wife looked back and got stuck when she turned into a pillar of salt. The rest of the family did not and entered into a new land and a new life. The choice is ours to be like Lot’s wife or the rest of the family. It is the same situation only different choices! We can continue to look back on what we have lost or move forward and build a new life.  Choose to get better, not bitter! Uldean

HOPE IS THE ANCHOR

y marriage fell apart after 17 years..  The time between the separation and post divorce was one of the darkest time in my life.  I can vividly remembered every time I opened my eyes after a restless sleep I would literally see the cloud of depression hanging over my head. Just to take a shower was like a big chore.  I was downed, depressed, distressed and disappointed.  I would lock myself in my room and cried my eyes out, then wiped my tears, forced a smile and attended to the well being of my sons.  I could not let them…

Blaming God for the action of man.

t age 24 right after I completed my studies at College I met a very nice guy in church. The friendship developed quickly and soon after we were talking about getting married. I knew at the time that this would be a life long commitment and wanted to make sure I was making the right decision so I decided to sought the Lord. Like Gideon, I asked God for a physical sign. I remembered praying in my mind as I didn’t want to say it out loudly fearing the devil would manipulate the outcome (Back then,I was naive in my…

SOUL CARE

ver and over we are told that the joy of the Lord is our strength. We in the church were also led to believe that if you truly have faith then you would not feel sad. After all, you can sing and dance away your troubles. I remembered being around a particular group of church folks who were taught that they should speak things as though they were. As a result persons would actually feel sick but would say I am doing great and so forth. While I believe that the joy of the Lord truly is our strength and…