Posts Written OnMay 2016

Moving forward after infidelity

There comes a time when you have to draw the line and say “I have had enough” and move on with your life. Of course, this will not happen overnight but with consistency and perseverance you can put the pain behind you and embrace love and life again. You may also like to read Surviving Infidelity Do not waste your time trying to make sense out of what happened or try to rationalize your cheating spouse’s behaviour or sympathizing with him or her is pointless.  It is never okay to go outside of the relationship to solve problems within a relationship.…

Practical approach to deal with a cheating spouse

Now a days it seem like cheating on your partner is the norm and many out of frustration have learned to live with it for many reasons, including the fear of loneliness.  There are some people in a relationship who spend a great deal of time snooping around and find discriminatory evidence.  Yet they never confront their spouse and have no intention of doing it.  Instead they complain to others, become bitter and full of anger.  It is never a good idea to snoop, if you feel you have to snoop then there is a trust issue that needs to…

Surviving Infidelity

In spite of what most people think, no one is immune to infidelity.  It can happen to anyone, any time and under any circumstances.  There is just something about this type of betrayal that hit you in the very core of your being. I was once in a similar position and am sharing from the knowledge garnered and applied in my life during this very trying period.  It is my hope that the information provided will equip you with some survival skills during what can be a tumultuous period. First, I would like to address an extremely common action taken by…

Stumbling block to emotional healing

Life sometimes throws a curve ball our way so forceful that our plans and dreams are shattered into pieces and leave us so broken to the point where it is easy to get stuck in our pain.   It takes great courage to get up and move on but so worth it because for every end there is a new beginning. will not in any way undermine the grief that is associated with the lost of a loved one, the end of a relationship, loss of a job or any other tragedy that you may have faced.  However, someone was hurt…

SHELTERING YOUR KIDS WHILE WEATHERING THE STORMS OF DIVORCE

One of my greatest concerns during the separation and subsequent divorce after 17 years of marriage was the effect it would have on my children.  The union between my spouse and I produced two awesome boys who were extremely close to their dad. You may also want to read Weathering the Storms of Divorce During a divorce the welfare of the children must take precedence and the love for them must outweigh any negative emotions you may have towards your spouse. Here are some of the steps I took to shelter my children while weathering the storms of divorce: irst…

HOLD ON TIGHTLY TO THE GIVER AND LOOSEN YOUR GRIP ON THE GIFT

  The story is told of The Shunammite woman who was very kind to Elisha.  In return for her kindness Elisha asked her what he could do for her.  The Shunammite woman said she desired nothing.  But the truth is she desires nothing because she was contented with her life and I would imagine given up on her hope of having a child.  Elisha knew otherwise and despite her objection he prayed that the Shunammite woman would conceive and surely she did and gave birth to a son. At the age of 12 the boy died.   In bitter distress The…

HANDLING GOSSIPING WHILE WEATHERING THE STORMS OF DIVORCE

  After 17 years of marriage my husband and I got divorced. You may also want to read “Weathering the Storms of Divorce.” That period was the darkest and most painful time in my life and the last thing I wanted was for people to be gossiping about us – wishful thinking.  I assumed people were gossiping before but it was when my husband and I legally separated that the gossiping escalated and sadly the people who talked about us were not just strangers; some were other church members, families and friends. If only it were true that “stick and…

Flattery

Proverbs 29:5-6 “A person who flatters his neighbour is spreading a net for him to step into. To an evil person sin is bait in a trap, but a righteous person runs away from it and is glad.”   ecently a lady walked up to me and started to admire the shiny bracelet I had on my hand. Then she went on to tell me that I look like someone who is fashionable and that she could get me VIP pass to attend an event with her and that I would be an ideal candidate to model brand name items that her company would…

Steps I took to survive the storms of divorce

In my previous blog “Weathering the storms of divorce” I shared my emotional roller coaster I experienced during the separation and subsequent divorce after 17 years of marriage. I was at a very dangerous cross road and I had to decide whether I would die for the husband who had betrayed my trust or live for my children. I chose to live and fought with depression and hopelessness to regain myself. Here are some of the steps I took to survive the storms of divorce: I sought professional counselling – I decided to seek professionally counselling. Fortunately for me I was studying…