Posts Tagged‘broken relationship’

Trust yourself again

More than once after I shared the story about the events that led to my divorce, I am asked “didn’t you see any sign that your ex is that kind of a person?” or they will comment “you must have seen some red flags.” I honestly saw no red flags or I may have totally missed them, I had no idea my ex has that side to him.  As a matter of fact, I thought he was one of the sweetest people.  I was totally blindsided and I believe this is why the betrayal was so painful. ften times when…

Common behavior of a cheating spouse

When someone is drawn by their desire to cheat there is pretty much nothing you can do to stop the person; no amount of cooking, cleaning or sex will change his mind.  The truth is happy husbands cheat too.  In a situation where there maybe cheating, ignorance is not bliss, you have to know what you are up against so that you can protect yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. You might also like to read surviving infidelity The list I have compiled is not one size fit all.  There may be signs as well as none and not because you may see…

Moving forward after infidelity

There comes a time when you have to draw the line and say “I have had enough” and move on with your life. Of course, this will not happen overnight but with consistency and perseverance you can put the pain behind you and embrace love and life again. You may also like to read Surviving Infidelity Do not waste your time trying to make sense out of what happened or try to rationalize your cheating spouse’s behaviour or sympathizing with him or her is pointless.  It is never okay to go outside of the relationship to solve problems within a relationship.…

Practical approach to deal with a cheating spouse

Now a days it seem like cheating on your partner is the norm and many out of frustration have learned to live with it for many reasons, including the fear of loneliness.  There are some people in a relationship who spend a great deal of time snooping around and find discriminatory evidence.  Yet they never confront their spouse and have no intention of doing it.  Instead they complain to others, become bitter and full of anger.  It is never a good idea to snoop, if you feel you have to snoop then there is a trust issue that needs to…

Surviving Infidelity

In spite of what most people think, no one is immune to infidelity.  It can happen to anyone, any time and under any circumstances.  There is just something about this type of betrayal that hit you in the very core of your being. I was once in a similar position and am sharing from the knowledge garnered and applied in my life during this very trying period.  It is my hope that the information provided will equip you with some survival skills during what can be a tumultuous period. First, I would like to address an extremely common action taken by…

SHELTERING YOUR KIDS WHILE WEATHERING THE STORMS OF DIVORCE

One of my greatest concerns during the separation and subsequent divorce after 17 years of marriage was the effect it would have on my children.  The union between my spouse and I produced two awesome boys who were extremely close to their dad. You may also want to read Weathering the Storms of Divorce During a divorce the welfare of the children must take precedence and the love for them must outweigh any negative emotions you may have towards your spouse. Here are some of the steps I took to shelter my children while weathering the storms of divorce: irst…