Posts Tagged‘divorce’

Divorce and loneliness

One of the consequences of divorce is loneliness; at least it is for the partner who is not already in a relationship.   Loneliness couple with pain can lead to making wrong relationship decision if you are not careful.  It is during this period that you have to make an intentional effort to resist the temptation to use people to replace your pain. In the past, I have observed a beautiful and educated young lady who soon after her separation got involved with a man in the community who is well known for having affairs with multiple women.  At the time, I questioned…

SHELTERING YOUR KIDS WHILE WEATHERING THE STORMS OF DIVORCE

One of my greatest concerns during the separation and subsequent divorce after 17 years of marriage was the effect it would have on my children.  The union between my spouse and I produced two awesome boys who were extremely close to their dad. You may also want to read Weathering the Storms of Divorce During a divorce the welfare of the children must take precedence and the love for them must outweigh any negative emotions you may have towards your spouse. Here are some of the steps I took to shelter my children while weathering the storms of divorce: irst…

HANDLING GOSSIPING WHILE WEATHERING THE STORMS OF DIVORCE

  After 17 years of marriage my husband and I got divorced. You may also want to read “Weathering the Storms of Divorce.” That period was the darkest and most painful time in my life and the last thing I wanted was for people to be gossiping about us – wishful thinking.  I assumed people were gossiping before but it was when my husband and I legally separated that the gossiping escalated and sadly the people who talked about us were not just strangers; some were other church members, families and friends. If only it were true that “stick and…

Steps I took to survive the storms of divorce

In my previous blog “Weathering the storms of divorce” I shared my emotional roller coaster I experienced during the separation and subsequent divorce after 17 years of marriage. I was at a very dangerous cross road and I had to decide whether I would die for the husband who had betrayed my trust or live for my children. I chose to live and fought with depression and hopelessness to regain myself. Here are some of the steps I took to survive the storms of divorce: I sought professional counselling – I decided to seek professionally counselling. Fortunately for me I was studying…

Weathering the storms of divorce

have had my shares of challenges in my life but the most hurtful, painful and devastating experience I had was when my marriage fell apart and ended in divorce after 17 years of togetherness – not even the death of my mother was this painful. I went through so much emotional turmoil that I totally get why people try to drown their sorrows in a bottle.  I also came to fully realize the thin line that exist between sane and insanity. In the early stage I was in so much disbelief and shock.  I never imagined that this could happen…

I have all right to be an angry single mother!

got divorced after 17 years of marriage. I am in my forties, raising two kids with minimal child support. My ex remarried to a younger woman four months after the divorce was finalized, has a new family, prospering financially and has moved on with his new life. While my life on the other hand revolves around the children: homework, dinner, doctor and dentist appointment and so forth. How did I get here? After all, I did the right thing; I got married to a nice Christian man before I had my children as the last thing I wanted was to…