Posts Tagged‘moving forward’

Trust yourself again

More than once after I shared the story about the events that led to my divorce, I am asked “didn’t you see any sign that your ex is that kind of a person?” or they will comment “you must have seen some red flags.” I honestly saw no red flags or I may have totally missed them, I had no idea my ex has that side to him.  As a matter of fact, I thought he was one of the sweetest people.  I was totally blindsided and I believe this is why the betrayal was so painful. ften times when…

Moving forward after infidelity

There comes a time when you have to draw the line and say “I have had enough” and move on with your life. Of course, this will not happen overnight but with consistency and perseverance you can put the pain behind you and embrace love and life again. You may also like to read Surviving Infidelity Do not waste your time trying to make sense out of what happened or try to rationalize your cheating spouse’s behaviour or sympathizing with him or her is pointless.  It is never okay to go outside of the relationship to solve problems within a relationship.…

Stumbling block to emotional healing

Life sometimes throws a curve ball our way so forceful that our plans and dreams are shattered into pieces and leave us so broken to the point where it is easy to get stuck in our pain.   It takes great courage to get up and move on but so worth it because for every end there is a new beginning. will not in any way undermine the grief that is associated with the lost of a loved one, the end of a relationship, loss of a job or any other tragedy that you may have faced.  However, someone was hurt…

Steps I took to survive the storms of divorce

In my previous blog “Weathering the storms of divorce” I shared my emotional roller coaster I experienced during the separation and subsequent divorce after 17 years of marriage. I was at a very dangerous cross road and I had to decide whether I would die for the husband who had betrayed my trust or live for my children. I chose to live and fought with depression and hopelessness to regain myself. Here are some of the steps I took to survive the storms of divorce: I sought professional counselling – I decided to seek professionally counselling. Fortunately for me I was studying…

Weathering the storms of divorce

have had my shares of challenges in my life but the most hurtful, painful and devastating experience I had was when my marriage fell apart and ended in divorce after 17 years of togetherness – not even the death of my mother was this painful. I went through so much emotional turmoil that I totally get why people try to drown their sorrows in a bottle.  I also came to fully realize the thin line that exist between sane and insanity. In the early stage I was in so much disbelief and shock.  I never imagined that this could happen…

I have all right to be an angry single mother!

got divorced after 17 years of marriage. I am in my forties, raising two kids with minimal child support. My ex remarried to a younger woman four months after the divorce was finalized, has a new family, prospering financially and has moved on with his new life. While my life on the other hand revolves around the children: homework, dinner, doctor and dentist appointment and so forth. How did I get here? After all, I did the right thing; I got married to a nice Christian man before I had my children as the last thing I wanted was to…

YIELD TO THE PROCESS

Have you ever notice that when you are hurrying you seem to make a mess of things, no wonder it is said that “haste make waste?” It may sound like a cliche’ but anything worthwhile in life takes time. When we rush we tend to miss important details. Slow down, do not manipulate the situation, thing or person. In the right time if it is meant to be things will fall into place. Yield to the process. Uldean

Know when to let go

ot’s wife looked back and got stuck when she turned into a pillar of salt. The rest of the family did not and entered into a new land and a new life. The choice is ours to be like Lot’s wife or the rest of the family. It is the same situation only different choices! We can continue to look back on what we have lost or move forward and build a new life.  Choose to get better, not bitter! Uldean