Posts Tagged‘relationship’

Moving forward after infidelity

There comes a time when you have to draw the line and say “I have had enough” and move on with your life. Of course, this will not happen overnight but with consistency and perseverance you can put the pain behind you and embrace love and life again. You may also like to read Surviving Infidelity Do not waste your time trying to make sense out of what happened or try to rationalize your cheating spouse’s behaviour or sympathizing with him or her is pointless.  It is never okay to go outside of the relationship to solve problems within a relationship.…

Surviving Infidelity

In spite of what most people think, no one is immune to infidelity.  It can happen to anyone, any time and under any circumstances.  There is just something about this type of betrayal that hit you in the very core of your being. I was once in a similar position and am sharing from the knowledge garnered and applied in my life during this very trying period.  It is my hope that the information provided will equip you with some survival skills during what can be a tumultuous period. First, I would like to address an extremely common action taken by…

Steps I took to survive the storms of divorce

In my previous blog “Weathering the storms of divorce” I shared my emotional roller coaster I experienced during the separation and subsequent divorce after 17 years of marriage. I was at a very dangerous cross road and I had to decide whether I would die for the husband who had betrayed my trust or live for my children. I chose to live and fought with depression and hopelessness to regain myself. Here are some of the steps I took to survive the storms of divorce: I sought professional counselling – I decided to seek professionally counselling. Fortunately for me I was studying…

HOPE IS THE ANCHOR

y marriage fell apart after 17 years..  The time between the separation and post divorce was one of the darkest time in my life.  I can vividly remembered every time I opened my eyes after a restless sleep I would literally see the cloud of depression hanging over my head. Just to take a shower was like a big chore.  I was downed, depressed, distressed and disappointed.  I would lock myself in my room and cried my eyes out, then wiped my tears, forced a smile and attended to the well being of my sons.  I could not let them…

SOUL CARE

ver and over we are told that the joy of the Lord is our strength. We in the church were also led to believe that if you truly have faith then you would not feel sad. After all, you can sing and dance away your troubles. I remembered being around a particular group of church folks who were taught that they should speak things as though they were. As a result persons would actually feel sick but would say I am doing great and so forth. While I believe that the joy of the Lord truly is our strength and…

Whispers from Heaven

Remembering mom on Mother’s Day I find myself repeating what you said The exact words that irritated me back then I didn’t understand your sacrifice But having kids of my own made me realize I am bless to be more educated than you And it blow my mind how you made it through You defy the odds with less than I have So I know I will make it too Even when you lie on your death bed You dealt with your sickness oh so well I remembered I said to you “Mom what do you want God to do?”…